Friendship ?!

either in friendship, family or love

yeah...in love relationship just as friendship...that sucks !

But now with all the tools we have in our disposition (Skype, Facebook...), it's pretty easy to keep in touch

Love is another matter tho'...

Yeah, but sometimes I feel like all of these "tools" you're talking about are "useless"...

You can't even talk to your firend straight in the eyes...you can't even hug him/her when he/she's crying...

Skype helps me keeping in touch mostly with my family

being able to talk to them every day for free is great

Facebook helps me keeping in touch with my friends

posting pictures of my travels, seeing their activities...

it's not the same as being with them (but no tools will ever leave this experience) but it's a great way to keep in touch too

"You can't even talk to your firend straight in the eyes...you can't even hug him/her when he/she's crying..." -> you can see them on video

hugs are pretty difficult in this case

I agree...New technology, instant messaging etc are the best tools ever found to keep in touch with somebody who is on another continent, another country...

videos are great...but...

do you think you can be helpful being so far away ???!!!

How ?!

The hardest part for me is being there when my friends really need me.

You cannot be all the time online (except if you're a no-life)

And you live your life in your "new" country, with new friends, new activities...

so pretty hard not to lose contact with your relatives

Your friends think you're too far, not living the same thing, won't understand their problems... won't be here for them.

In my case, I have one friend...He's in the same country, but lives in another city...He's now in need...But I feel soooo useless....Why ? Because I can't go to see him "right now"...By train, it would take me 7h30 to get to his place...And by car, not possible, because I can't drive

But thanks to these tools we spoke about before (IM...) you can speak to them and try to help them..

Give him a call!

It's not the best solution ever, but it stills better than doing nothing, waiting to get some news from him on Facebook..

I don't know...I love helping friends, because I love them and hate to know they're sad...but sometimes, their problem seem soooo huge, and you just don't know how to help them

I think you cannot solve all of your friends (or the humanity!) problems

but you can be there to give them some comfort

some advice

financially, as far i can, i woudl definitely help...sentimentally, I would "try" to help by listening, giving advices, sharing some past experiences...but what if it's out of that ? how can you help ?

Hahahahhahaha, unfortunately, I am not SuperWoman

What do you mean by "out of that"? If it's alright for you to speak about it...

Sure thats not you ? 

I don't really know actually...The friend I'm talking about didn't tell me he was in need, but I just feel it...And I'm SURE that it is not a question of money, brokenheart and stuff like that...

Oh yeah....Now, I start to recognize myself in her...Pity I'm just flying in my dreams :p

I know you can not help EVERYbody ALL the time...But it makes me feel so guilty not being able to help...

Yeah I'm quite the same than you in this case

Often, you can help, just by listening...But...When you're in need, you can't always feel like "talking", you know what I mean ?

You should try to contact your friend again, if he really trusts you he will tell you if he needs you

Yeah, I know what you mean. But if you show your friend you are here from him, he should be able to speak to you.

Nooooo, because...

For my part, when I'm in trouble...I don't feel like talking, no matter how close this or that friend is to me...I don't feel like talking at the moment...

I would like to...But for some reasons I don't...

What makes you talk to a friend, whenever you talk ?

Don't want to bother friends. And that's RI-DI-CU-LOUS in a way...Because friends are present for that, I KNOW...But it's much easy to say than to follow one's own advice

Sometimes, when I talk to a friend, it doesn"t mean I expect any help from him/her, but I just feel like "speaking out"

Just try to speak with him, if he feels like talking he will do it.

Great advice Ted!